I was raised in the South, and I had “sex education” in middle school. What was it really? It was abstinence education. We were taught that we must wait until marriage to have sex, and if we didn’t wait until marriage our dreams wouldn’t come true and all kinds of other horrible things would happen to us.
We were even told to sign an abstinence pledge at the end of the unit. I refused.
So, in case no one has told you this, female “purity” is a lie. It’s a made-up concept. You are not a bad person if you have sex before marriage. This idea makes so many girls feel bad about themselves if they do have sex.
Elizabeth Smart, the human trafficking victim, was raised with these beliefs. She said that she felt “dirty and filthy” after she was raped. She spoke of a teacher who referred to women as a piece of gum. Smart said:
“I thought, ‘Oh, my gosh, I’m that chewed up piece of gum, nobody re-chews a piece of gum, you throw it away.’ And that’s how easy it is to feel like you know longer have worth, you know longer have value. Why would it even be worth screaming out? Why would it even make a difference if you are rescued? Your life still has no value.”
There is no reason to be ashamed of yourself or your body.
Here is John Oliver’s brilliant take on sex-ed and the abstinence-only bullshit:
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